Saturday, December 6, 2008

#4. Tear Jerkers

Tears, Idle Tears

When the Poet Laureate wrote: 'Tears, idle tears I know not what they mean’ was he referring to the tears that come to your eyes when you are sitting just like that, reminiscing about something, you yawn in the winter afternoon sun and the tears come to your eyes. They are tears of laziness, slight boredom and sleepiness. Then we have crocodile tears which are only for show, and without any emotion behind them. There is another type which is full of emotion, grief, sadness, when you part with your near and dear ones, or when you remember something which you wish could have been otherwise, like crying over the spilt milk with a lot of emotion thrown in.

In the movie ‘Lamhe’, a neighbouring jagirdar comes to meet the son of his old friend who is no more, and the son has come after a long time. Well the jagirdar comes and leaves abruptly when his late friend is mentioned. The son is stupefied thinking that it was because of his faux pas, and is explained by his nannie that Rajputs don’t want to show their tears even to their own and that is why he had left.

Memories do bring tears, but what I have in mind the audio visual which draws tears, a movie, a song, or somebody reminding you of something. I remember one of my teachers who at the time of his retirement during his farewell speech to the students cried bitterly. There are some who cry in a movie, some invariably whether the scene is sad or not. Some even cry when they hear a sad song, or even during a reality show. Many sposrtspersons during their moment of achievement give way to their emotion and cry on the victory stand. Some cry when they could not stand on that. One remembers that when Lady Margaret’s son was lost in the African desert, his mother cried bitterly, in spite of her being called the Iron Lady. Some don’t cry when their nearest and dearest have passed away, and people worry over the effect pent-up emotins will have on the mental make-up of the bereaved. There is a sigh of relief everywhere when ultimately the person loses control.
Why should anybody start crying at the smallest incident in a movie or a TV serial whether sad or happy? Is that their threshold of emotions is too low? Are they emotionally more vulnerable, and therefore more disturbed? Or is it because of some psychological disturbance deep inside their mind which creates this havoc? Once I read that some actors do not need artificial tears and they can cry whenever they feel like, or whenever the need arises.

Whatever, there is a lot of difference between the real tears and these idle tears, and at the most emotional level are those which come to the eyes but do not fall: ‘Humne to jana hai Hazin/ Jo gir jaye woh paani hai/ Ansoo to who ek katra hai, jo palkon pe tadpe, beh na sake.’( I have realised Hazin (the poet) that what comes out of eyes is just water. Tear is the drop which trembles at the eyelids but dare not come out).

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